This post. beleivable or not, was posted on my Guitar forum in the general enquiries section. I'm not sure it's for real as it is so extreme but then why write in and make this up: you decide, but this bloke's (UK resident) life must be hell............
I am a married man. I am very unhappy. Ours dont seem normal but my wife says 'this is how all men live'. So am asking the women on this site if this is true. We have been married for 35-years
She controls all the money, she can go out and buy whatever she wants, but I am permanently skint.
I have a reputation for being mean and tight fisted but I am too embarrassed to tell people at work she wont give me any pocket money.
A man at work got married and everyone chipped in £5. She refused to give me any money as she said she didnt know the bridegroom, now they are calling me mean and playing tricks on me for being horribly stingy.
She give me 1 meal a day mostly vegetables. She gives me two jam sandwiches for my lunch, I do heavy manual work and am often 'taken ill at work' the nurse says it is low blood sugar level due to lack of nutrician, She recently upgraded to three jam sandwiches, but she buys her food in the works restaraunt.
She always drives a nice car while I drive heaps of S***, bangers that are unroadworthy, I am terrified of getting stopped by the police.
She has very expensive clothes, all mine are seconds and end of lines
She buys her food from M&S but mine is all tesco economy and asda farmstores or out of date stuff. She uses the front door but I have to use the back.
After work she goes home and relaxes in front of the tv but I have to keep working. She says 'men work, that is what men do, all men are slaves to their wives, thats what marriage is, no man if free'
Her bedroom has all the latest gadgetry mine is just a bed, wardrobe and a lamp.
I earn and have always earned most of the money, she works 37-hours a week but I have to do two jobs where I have to work 66-hours a week.
In her holidays she relaxes and goes out with her friends but I have to spend all my holidays decorating and doing diy.
At work I have a reputation for being mean and tight fisted. But she just dont give me any money.
I earn three quarters of our income.
She gives me £15 a week for petrol and gets very angry abusing me if I cant stretch it out, but she spends £30 a week and her journey is about the same miles as my own. She accused me of stealing the petrol money
All her friends say I am an animal, cruel and she should divorce me, but I am the one who gets abused non-stop, she comes home very angry and shouts at me non-stop.
Our home is kept like a show home, I am not allowed to sit on a chair, I have to sit on the floor, but she sits on chairs. I am not allowed in the lounge. I am only allowed to drink alcohol at Christmas, then only a small glass of spirit which she waters down.
She can justify how she treats me. She says being middle class she should use the front door, working class use the back door. Ditto with the cars, she has to look nice at work whereas no one bothers about what I look like, she reckon her stomach can only cope with food from M & S where I can eat S***.
I found a field where a market holder dumps his rotten fruit and veg. It has proven to be my saviour. I can now eat all I need, but it is all rotten stuff where vermin have been.
Evreything I do, she criticises me, I have no confidence at all.
At Christmans she expects very expensive presents from me and gets very angry if she dont get them, but she only gives me £50 to spend on hre presents. She says I could spend £250 if I chose, but where am I supposed to get this money from?
My dad left me £166,000 but it has all disapeared. She kept saying the solicitors are still sorting it out but after not seeing any, 8-years later, rang and they said it was all sorted years ago. Now she is trying to say she told me at the time we had it and she has invested it but refuses to tell me where. The solicitor sent me a cheque but she paid it into our current account then transfered it to other accounts then onto other accounts and the trail leads to a dead end. All I have got is 14 closed bank acounts.
She says my earnings are 'the banks money and she is the banker', asking her for money is she says is nonsence, if I go into any bank and ask them for some of their money they will laugh at me, so why is she any different? But she just wont concede it is mostly my earnings.
I have been diagnosed as being sterile from birth so whose the father of our children?
I have asked for equality in marriage but she says she would rather divorce me, there is no way she is prepared to give me equality.
My hope is she will want me out of her life now that I have worked myself into the ground and may not be able to work for much longer. Should I leave her? Where do I live?
Is this really how all men live? Do the women on this site treat their men the same? I am so unhappy